onlinedatingshenanigans:


He’s a real Casanova.

Definitely steer clear of men who refer to women as “crazy,” especially in the “My ex is crazy” context.  

Doubly true if they say all of their exes are ‘crazy.’ What’s the one common denominator there? Exactly. 

onlinedatingshenanigans:

He’s a real Casanova.

Definitely steer clear of men who refer to women as “crazy,” especially in the “My ex is crazy” context.  

Doubly true if they say all of their exes are ‘crazy.’ What’s the one common denominator there? Exactly. 

FAQs? Questions? Clever titles?

Ever since starting this blog, I’ve been on the receiving end of lots of random questions— some of which I’ve answered publicly, some (at the request of the asker) I’ve answered privately. 

If you all have any questions for me that I can answer publicly, feel free to inbox me! About this blog, about online dating, about how much I love Prince, whatever. I figured it might be fun to spice things up around here with something other than squirting requests,ya know?

I just wanted to drop a quick note and thank you guys for following what started as my personal catharsis from OKC. It makes me happy that me being on the receiving end of this nonsense is not totally in vain— because you guys think these messages are as funny as I do. 
Like always, I’d like to remind you guys that we do most definitely take submissions— either screen shots or stories, I’m happy to share. And if you mod an online dating blog, I’d love to follow you, too! So shoot me a link, please :) Also, I do my best to follow all of you guys back on my person Tumblr, since I can’t follow you back on this page. Just an FYI!
In the meantime, here’s a celebratory Beyonce gif post! Because if there’s one thing this blog is about deep down, it’s blatant misandry. 

I just wanted to drop a quick note and thank you guys for following what started as my personal catharsis from OKC. It makes me happy that me being on the receiving end of this nonsense is not totally in vain— because you guys think these messages are as funny as I do. 

Like always, I’d like to remind you guys that we do most definitely take submissions— either screen shots or stories, I’m happy to share. And if you mod an online dating blog, I’d love to follow you, too! So shoot me a link, please :) Also, I do my best to follow all of you guys back on my person Tumblr, since I can’t follow you back on this page. Just an FYI!

In the meantime, here’s a celebratory Beyonce gif post! Because if there’s one thing this blog is about deep down, it’s blatant misandry. 

If at first you don’t succeed… get a better fucking pick up line. 

okcreepsters:

comicgone:

*facepalms through the back of my skull*

#NO

You know what’s so funny about this question? I don’t so much judge somebody for getting the answer wrong, but if you get the answer wrong and have some sassy ass comment… bye.

okcreepsters:

comicgone:

*facepalms through the back of my skull*

#NO

You know what’s so funny about this question? I don’t so much judge somebody for getting the answer wrong, but if you get the answer wrong and have some sassy ass comment… bye.

(via ewkcupid)

I suppose it goes without saying at this point, but that was his first message ever to me. But for fun, and since I’m bored, I’ve also included several of his best answers. 
I suppose it goes without saying at this point, but that was his first message ever to me. But for fun, and since I’m bored, I’ve also included several of his best answers. 
I suppose it goes without saying at this point, but that was his first message ever to me. But for fun, and since I’m bored, I’ve also included several of his best answers. 
I suppose it goes without saying at this point, but that was his first message ever to me. But for fun, and since I’m bored, I’ve also included several of his best answers. 
I suppose it goes without saying at this point, but that was his first message ever to me. But for fun, and since I’m bored, I’ve also included several of his best answers. 

I suppose it goes without saying at this point, but that was his first message ever to me. But for fun, and since I’m bored, I’ve also included several of his best answers. 

okcreepsters:

So a story from tonight about consent:
I was supposed to meet a guy I’d been talking to for about a week, and we were meeting pretty much to see if we liked each other because we’d both expressed interest in having casual sex and/or a friends with benefits relationship. I got to the coffee shop where we were supposed to meet and he wasn’t there. I checked my phone, and here he’d sent a text saying “Can we just skip the date and fuck?”
I have pretty strict rules when it comes to guys who want to have casual sex with me - and this includes meeting them first to see if we’re compatible and see if I would even trust being alone with them - so I said no, I was not comfortable with that. And he continued to send me messages about skipping the date and fucking, and sending coercing messages like “c’mon, pretty please?” that were supposed to make me feel bad. Eventually, ten minutes past when we were supposed to meet (he’d never showed up anyway), I said,
"Look, I’m not even comfortable meeting you anymore, even in public. I have clear boundaries and you are showing no respect for them, so I am going home."
His response was incredibly flippant - “lol ok w/e.” Which meant that he never really cared whether he had sex with me or not in the first place, and he never cared about me as a person with feelings. 
Dodged a bullet there, as he very well could’ve turned into a rapist when we were alone; I blocked him from my phone and OKC, and I hope I never run into him on the street.
(Also, before anyone says I’m overreacting by saying he could’ve turned into a rapist - he was displaying a lot of predatory behavior when he was messaging me about skipping the date. We had already agreed to meet before we decided to take it any further or not, and instead of still honoring that rule, he broke it and wanted to just skip to having sex right away without so much as a hello. He was asking me for nudes even after I said I wasn’t comfortable with it, etc. He was not respecting my consent about sex-related things, so he probably wouldn’t have respected my consent about actual sex.)
S: You were totally justified in your response. He sounds like a scumbag.

Always trust your instincts. If something seems off, something is probably off.  
Some people might say that an attitude like the one I just expressed is too uptight, too judgmental, too whatever, but I don’t really care. Everybody, regardless of sex, gender, or orientation needs to be careful when dating, but we especially have to be extra careful when it comes to online dating. We all think we’re great at weeding out the weirdos, but even when you’re a pro, some still slink on through.  
Do you, baby. You were 100% right to feel how you felt… and it sounds like you were justified in it, too. okcreepsters:

So a story from tonight about consent:
I was supposed to meet a guy I’d been talking to for about a week, and we were meeting pretty much to see if we liked each other because we’d both expressed interest in having casual sex and/or a friends with benefits relationship. I got to the coffee shop where we were supposed to meet and he wasn’t there. I checked my phone, and here he’d sent a text saying “Can we just skip the date and fuck?”
I have pretty strict rules when it comes to guys who want to have casual sex with me - and this includes meeting them first to see if we’re compatible and see if I would even trust being alone with them - so I said no, I was not comfortable with that. And he continued to send me messages about skipping the date and fucking, and sending coercing messages like “c’mon, pretty please?” that were supposed to make me feel bad. Eventually, ten minutes past when we were supposed to meet (he’d never showed up anyway), I said,
"Look, I’m not even comfortable meeting you anymore, even in public. I have clear boundaries and you are showing no respect for them, so I am going home."
His response was incredibly flippant - “lol ok w/e.” Which meant that he never really cared whether he had sex with me or not in the first place, and he never cared about me as a person with feelings. 
Dodged a bullet there, as he very well could’ve turned into a rapist when we were alone; I blocked him from my phone and OKC, and I hope I never run into him on the street.
(Also, before anyone says I’m overreacting by saying he could’ve turned into a rapist - he was displaying a lot of predatory behavior when he was messaging me about skipping the date. We had already agreed to meet before we decided to take it any further or not, and instead of still honoring that rule, he broke it and wanted to just skip to having sex right away without so much as a hello. He was asking me for nudes even after I said I wasn’t comfortable with it, etc. He was not respecting my consent about sex-related things, so he probably wouldn’t have respected my consent about actual sex.)
S: You were totally justified in your response. He sounds like a scumbag.

Always trust your instincts. If something seems off, something is probably off.  
Some people might say that an attitude like the one I just expressed is too uptight, too judgmental, too whatever, but I don’t really care. Everybody, regardless of sex, gender, or orientation needs to be careful when dating, but we especially have to be extra careful when it comes to online dating. We all think we’re great at weeding out the weirdos, but even when you’re a pro, some still slink on through.  
Do you, baby. You were 100% right to feel how you felt… and it sounds like you were justified in it, too.

okcreepsters:

So a story from tonight about consent:

I was supposed to meet a guy I’d been talking to for about a week, and we were meeting pretty much to see if we liked each other because we’d both expressed interest in having casual sex and/or a friends with benefits relationship. I got to the coffee shop where we were supposed to meet and he wasn’t there. I checked my phone, and here he’d sent a text saying “Can we just skip the date and fuck?”

I have pretty strict rules when it comes to guys who want to have casual sex with me - and this includes meeting them first to see if we’re compatible and see if I would even trust being alone with them - so I said no, I was not comfortable with that. And he continued to send me messages about skipping the date and fucking, and sending coercing messages like “c’mon, pretty please?” that were supposed to make me feel bad. Eventually, ten minutes past when we were supposed to meet (he’d never showed up anyway), I said,

"Look, I’m not even comfortable meeting you anymore, even in public. I have clear boundaries and you are showing no respect for them, so I am going home."

His response was incredibly flippant - “lol ok w/e.” Which meant that he never really cared whether he had sex with me or not in the first place, and he never cared about me as a person with feelings. 

Dodged a bullet there, as he very well could’ve turned into a rapist when we were alone; I blocked him from my phone and OKC, and I hope I never run into him on the street.

(Also, before anyone says I’m overreacting by saying he could’ve turned into a rapist - he was displaying a lot of predatory behavior when he was messaging me about skipping the date. We had already agreed to meet before we decided to take it any further or not, and instead of still honoring that rule, he broke it and wanted to just skip to having sex right away without so much as a hello. He was asking me for nudes even after I said I wasn’t comfortable with it, etc. He was not respecting my consent about sex-related things, so he probably wouldn’t have respected my consent about actual sex.)

S: You were totally justified in your response. He sounds like a scumbag.

Always trust your instincts. If something seems off, something is probably off.  

Some people might say that an attitude like the one I just expressed is too uptight, too judgmental, too whatever, but I don’t really care. Everybody, regardless of sex, gender, or orientation needs to be careful when dating, but we especially have to be extra careful when it comes to online dating. We all think we’re great at weeding out the weirdos, but even when you’re a pro, some still slink on through.  

Do you, baby. You were 100% right to feel how you felt… and it sounds like you were justified in it, too.

(via suldrunsgarden)

Q

Anonymous asked:

Here's a few points for you; 1. ignoring is not 'no'. It is what childish people do. If you don't want to talk to someone again, unmatch them. If you don't, it's fair game to message you. Given your love of numbers, maybe you just like seeing a larger pool of matches. 2. Why even match people if you're going to ignore them?

A

watchriadate:

eviltessmacher:

watchriadate:

Aw, that’s cute. Being called childish by someone who had to go on anon to criticize me. That’s really adorable.

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You know what else is really cute? Your whole “well, you didn’t do x so you’re practically asking for y” argument. Now where else have I heard that before…

And it honestly just sounds like someone’s a little jealous of all the game I have.

Finally, let me be frank here, I swipe right on Tinder when I think someone is pretty. But personality and the ability to hold a stimulating conversation are really what grab my interest. So when that’s lacking, uh, yeah, I’m going to ignore them because I don’t fucking owe them shit.

How about owing everyone some common courtesy? We all owe that to everyone else, until they demonstrate they aren’t worthy of it.

This whole attitude everyone seems to have about not owing anything to anyone else is the problem.

Oh, I don’t owe her any common courtesy because she’s dressed like a tart. Therefore she’s asking for it.

That’s how it starts.

Perhaps if you started treating others with some common courtesy, and not be so selfishly arrogant, then people would start treating others better. Have the guts to teach your friends to be more courteous. Tell them to do the same.

You’re not the only one on the planet.

I am going to assume that you’ve never tried online dating and have never spent any time on blogs such as okcdouchebags, okcreepsters, onlinedatingshenanigans or onlinedatingisliterallytheworst.

Have you ever tried rejecting a guy on an online dating site? Because I’ll let you in on a little secret: most of the time, they do not take it well. The men who barrage you with messages despite your lack of response are unsurprisingly the ones who explode with sexist and misogynistic rage when you have the “common courtesy” to reject them. So sorry that I don’t want to deal with that. So sorry I’m “selfishly arrogant.” Really, soooooo sorry.

Also, not responding to a stranger on the fucking internet is vastly different from invading somebody’s personal space and safety for the sake of entitlement.

On more than one occasion, I’ve had guys freak the fuck out when I’ve politely told them I wasn’t interested. I’ve had guys start calling me names (“fat bitch! You should be lucky someone like me would even lower himself to touch you!”), I’ve had guys threaten me with violence, I’ve had guys threaten me with rape (“You better hope I don’t run into you out on the street”).

There was one guy who I did actually give my number to and we talked a bit. It was clear pretty quickly that we weren’t compatible, so I politely told him that it was probably best if we went our separate ways. Dude lost. his. shit. Blew up my phone with over 100 texts, calling me an ugly, fat bitch and telling me I’d be lucky to even be raped by someone like him. I had to call my phone company and block him (this was before smart phones had that setting). Dude still randomly tries to add me on Facebook from whatever new account he’s made and  same thing on OKC. 

Now, for all of that effort, you’d think we had some deep relationship, right? Wrong. We exchanged a few OKC messages, he seemed cool, I gave him my number to talk about planning a date and…he went crazy. So, now I basically don’t ever give dudes off of OKC my number, all thanks to this asshole.

The worst part? My story didn’t even end that badly, all things considered. 

I can’t quite put my finger on why this message is so creepy, but it is. 

yochevedke:

okcupidescapades:

possibly the most charming message i have ever received

Well at least he cares about you enjoying yourself.

^^ This is what OKC has done to us, friends. 

Like, what would make anyone think that’s a solid introductory line? You’ve never said word one to me before, but “You’re curvy,” is the best thing you can muster? Bye.

No whores please though.
No whores please though.
No whores please though.
No whores please though.
No whores please though.

No whores please though.

No whores please though.

No whores please though.

No whores please though.

No whores please though.